Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Learning A Little

By Chunho Kim, Kalealoa

Do you have to be the best dancer in the room to have a great time? Ha Ha Ha. If you want to maximize your social dancing fun, you simply need to become "average" in your area and take your time enjoying the journey from beginner to average. Even if you are not the outstanding super star,  you can be having a better time than half the guys in the room.

“No matter what happens, or how bad it seems today,
life does go on,and it will be better tomorrow.” 

I say this to all the newer leads who will listen: "The fun in dancing is amplified dramatically when you get yourself into that 'average' skill level." There is nothing wrong for working toward being the best in the room, but getting into the top 50% changes the dynamics of partner dancing forever.

Once you're as good as half the guys in any room, you grow even faster because your more experienced partners are much happier dancing with you. Part of the followers night is spent dancing with guys below your level, so you start earning a spot on their "preferred list."

"Kiss Of Fire" by Georgia Gibbs

Some partners position themselves closer to you so you almost have to ask them or risk being rude (it’s a great problem when it happens). Dancing with stronger partners improves your game too, and it creates its own momentum.

At the same time, when dancing with newer follows (who grow much faster than most new guys), they recognize you're better than many others and as they grow, they also want more dances with you. You win with both sets of potential partners.

Just the fact that you've grown to the average level lets them know that you'll probably continue improving, and ladies are attracted to guys who are improving over time. Even if you reduce the pace of your direct learning, you’ll still grow with the momentum of your stronger partners.